There seems to be an assumption that as soon as you qualify, you should immediately join every counselling directory you can find.

It's easy to understand why.

You've spent years training. You've finally qualified. You've opened your private practice, and naturally you want people to find you.

I nearly did exactly the same.

But I waited.

Starting Out in Private Practice: What No One Tells You

You have finished your Level 4 Diploma. You have survived placement hours, written enough case studies to wallpaper your living room, and spent long nights thinking about your specialism. You have sorted your directory entry, polished your website, and even picked a font that feels “therapist but approachable.”

You sit back, ready for the clients to roll in.

And then… silence.

Welcome to the lull.

One Hundred Hours

When somebody first said that number to me, it felt enormous.

So I came up with a simple idea.

For every placement hour I completed, I’d put £1 in a jar.

Is There Ever a Time When You’ve Done Enough Training?

It’s a question that creeps in quietly.

Usually somewhere between booking another CPD course, downloading another certificate, or convincing yourself that this next piece of training will finally make you feel fully confident.

A Man Walked Into a Pharmacist…

That’s either the start of a terrible joke or the beginning of a story about someone refusing to admit they should probably slow down.

For many people, especially those used to carrying responsibility, stopping does not come naturally.

Life becomes full of routines built around continuing:
answering messages,
finishing one more task,
getting through the week,
keeping things moving,
pushing through tiredness because there are still things that need doing.

Then sometimes a small moment interrupts all of it.

Why Do Male Trainee Counsellors Always Find Each Other First?

There is something quietly strange about being a man in counselling training.

On many courses, men make up a small minority of the room. You walk in on the first day carrying the same nerves as everybody else, wondering whether you belong there, whether you sound reflective enough, emotionally aware enough, or whether everyone else somehow already understands the language of therapy better than you do.

How Do We Really Get Men to Engage?

It’s the question behind countless campaigns, services, workshops, and social media posts:

How do we actually get men to engage?

What You Give Up and What You Gain When You Become a Counsellor

Choosing to become a counsellor is not just a career decision. It’s a personal one. People often focus on what the profession offers, meaningful work, deeper connection, the opportunity to support others. And all of that is true. But there are also things you give up along the way, and it’s worth being honest about both sides before stepping into the role.

Starting Out in Private Practice: What No One Tells You

You finish your Level 4 Diploma. You survive placement. You write enough case studies to wallpaper your living room and spend long nights thinking about what kind of counsellor you want to become. Friends and family start asking when you’re finally going to “go private,” while training organisations talk confidently about building your practice and finding your niche.

What It Feels Like to Be Chosen as a Counsellor

Being chosen as a counsellor can sometimes feel like standing in a beauty contest you never signed up for.

There’s also something quietly strange about being a man in counselling training. In many courses, you might only make up twenty percent of the room. Sometimes when you first arrive, you naturally drift towards the other men, not because you necessarily have anything in common, but because being male is the only visible thing you immediately share. Different ages, backgrounds, politics, life experiences, yet somehow you end up sat together because it feels familiar in an unfamiliar space. Maybe more on that another time.

Why I Started Writing These Articles

Over time, I realised there were certain conversations I kept returning to.

Men struggling silently while appearing “fine.”
Trainee counsellors wondering whether they really belonged in the profession.
People carrying grief they could not easily explain.
Therapists quietly doubting themselves while trying to support everybody else.

Somewhere along the way, I noticed these reflections did not always fit neatly inside a counselling session, a LinkedIn post, or a short conversation over coffee after supervision. They needed a little more space.

So this section slowly began to take shape.

What to Expect When You Start Thinking About Private Practice

At some point during counselling training, many people begin looking around and wondering what happens next.

Placement hours slowly come to an end. Qualification appears somewhere on the horizon. Conversations begin to change. Friends, family, tutors, and peers start asking whether you are thinking about private practice.

The question sounds simple.

The reality often isn't.